Updated: Jun 18
Everybody knows that's what you do with dragons, kill them. Lemonella from Isasnora Snores.
Here is this week's YouTube video: https://youtu.be/_Tj9jKhH18c. Special thanks goes out to Cat Kortendick as Lemonella, Matthew Wehnert as Ebron, and J.P. Wehnert as Gozelinus. Monica Paur played Isasnora, and Elizabeth Paur was our narrator.
This week Isasnora disobeyed her parents to prove something to her cousins. She wanted them to accept her, but ended up disappointing them.
The story I'm about to share has nothing to do with disobeying my parents, but has to do with changing who I was to fit in.
When I was young, I read books all the time. I began to sound like a dictionary. In the fifth grade I was tested, and they said my vocabulary was at a college junior level. It was one of the few moments in my young life that I felt good about myself.
That positive feeling soon left.
My good friend hung out with this other girl and introduced her to me. I won't say names, but this girl had dirty-red hair, freckles peppering her face, and buck teeth. She was taller than most girls her age and very skinny. When she met me, she immediately criticized my large vocabulary. To fit in I decided to stop reading books and "dumb-down" the way I spoke. I changed myself - not to become a better person - but to make her like me. Looking back, I wish I could have kindly told her that she could either accept me for myself or move on.
It is certainly not easy to stand up for yourself since we want people to like us. We mistakenly feel that if we kindly express who we are or what we want, we will lose friends. True, we might. They may even criticize us. But do we want people to like the real us or the pretend us?
This applies to everything in life, and though some have teased me or tried to get me to do things I do not like, truth be told, I have done the very same thing to others in different situations.
So, how do we stand up for ourselves, and how do we respect others' wishes? Last week I talked about kindness, gratitude, and generosity. I think they can be applied here as well. Another good attitude to adopt is humility. Unfortunately, it seems to have a bad rap. Many see humility as being lowly or insignificant. This is how humility has been explained to me: Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.
Let's apply this to Isasnora and her cousins. Isasnora wanted her cousins to like and accept her. She was thinking that her behavior would win her friends and popularity. She was thinking of herself not of the danger she was putting her cousins and herself in nor of her disobedience. Her cousins, too, were certainly not practicing humility. They were only thinking of getting a thrill with seeing a dragon and even possibly killing it. They would be heroes!
Granted, as a writer, - greed, rudeness, selfishness, danger, etc. - help build conflict, which builds a story. The conflict, however, is often resolved by the main character overcoming obstacles and learning lessons. What will Isasnora learn? How will Isasnora change? You'll have to read the book.
Try not to make your opinion the only opinion that count.
In the meantime when you're home or out with your friends and family, practice humility. Try not to make your opinion the only opinion that counts. Others' opinions are just as important as yours (unless they want to hurt other people). If they prefer hot dogs over hamburgers, do not make them feel bad. If they don't want to stay up late at your sleepover, do not yell at them. And, the same goes for you. Try to be kind, but firm if your friends are trying to get you to do something you do not wish to do.
Be confident while being kind!
Thank you for reading! Have a great weekend!
BTW, I'm back to reading! I only stayed away from books for a few months after meeting that girl.